Excuse me, I’ve got the wrong life, I’d like to exchange it please!

Wouldn’t that be neat?  If changing your life was a simple as taking a wrong sized item of clothing back to the shop and exchanging it for the one you wanted.

Having the wrong life for you is more painful than an ill-fitting bra.  It might fit someone else perfectly and they might love it but if it doesn’t match your passions, values and personality, it’s likely to make you miserable.

Apparently 75% wear the wrong sized bra and that must mean many of us have become accustomed to the discomfort and maybe are in denial.  It’s likely we’ve adapted to this life that doesn’t fit us too.  Perhaps we’re too proud to admit we made a mistake?  Or we have done so well at making the best of the situation that we’ve forgotten what we really wanted.

Do you remember years ago when, unless it was from M&S, taking clothing back because it didn’t fit was quite a palaver?  You had to have your excuses ready and be prepared to battle the assistant as they inspected the item for signs it’d been worn, called their supervisor and had you complete multiple forms.

Perhaps that’s the response we expect when we want to change our lives?  We think the process will be difficult, others will react badly and we’ll not be able to cope with the new situation.  Our worry minds can have a field day with all the possible danger involved.  As ever, these worries tell us about our fears and the inner work we need to do rather than being a good prediction of what might happen.  Once we are willing to face and process them, we can put a plan in place to smoothly ease through the transition. 

So, if you could change an aspect of your life as easily as exchanging clothing, what would be different?