Wednesday 19 November 2014

3 Tips for Super Busy Working Mums

You're booked up, months in advance, your diary looks like an explosion of scribbles and post-its and you can't remember the last time you digested your food, let alone put your feet up!

You probably feel you have little choice as being super busy is part of a working Mum's Job description.  There are however some opportunities for some breathing space which will have a positive impact on your sense of well being and a ripple effect on the well being of your family...

1.  Let nature and beauty inspire you

Allow your child's smile, the sunset, flowing water, the skyline or whatever is beautiful to you to catch your eye.  Notice the details, breathe in the experience and let it remind you of the world beyond your to do list.  Allow this beauty to bring you into the present moment and, as you breathe out, let go of all that's beyond your control and influence.


Practice these moments of mindfulness during your day and, increase them as you can.

2.  Take Care

No doubt you are often taking care of everyone else but this is about taking care of you!  It is not selfish to take care of yourself, it is essential if you are going to be giving your wonderful energy to others.  Giving on empty isn't fun for anyone.  So plan your healthy meals, take naps and make the most of whatever moments you can to nurture yourself. 

3.  Ask for help

Quite often it is our competence that has led to our busyness and we can be reluctant to delegate.  Rather than putting our attention on the task and it's result, by considering the experience we give to others and ourselves, we can see the value of involving friends, family and colleagues.  People like to help and, by involving them, we share our knowledge and learn to accept other approaches and methods.

On this theme, I can to help too!  I'm offering free Life Strategy Coaching this month.  For an investment of an hour of your time, you can review your professional and personal life to fully appreciate where you are now and discover your top 3 priorities for 2015.  We'll be exploring different perspectives and possibilities and the results might surprise you.    It's an affirming, enriching experience you can give to yourself.  Book a time that's convenient to you at... 
http://veribook.com/viewAvail/WfycgbwHQF  for telephone sessions 
http://veribook.com/viewAvail/LwZwGSpxcB for face to face sessions in central and west London
or send me an email.

Deborah Reeds
deborah@soulsanook.com


    

Saturday 1 November 2014

3 Essentials of Self Employment



As the office worker sits in their grey, air-conditioned cubical staring at the screen, they dream of being self-employed, flexible hours, perhaps working from home.  An abundance of time saved travelling, able to integrate work with meeting friends for coffee, collecting the kids, walking the dog, home cooking……

Cut to the reality of self-employment and there have been some weeks where they had very happy friends and kids, the dog was worn out from all the walking and the laundry had never been so up-to-date but not much had progressed on the work front.  And other weeks where they were working day and night, no-one to pass the buck to and more stress than they'd ever had when employed.   They rarely get out of their dressing gown and they're overdosing on chocolate biscuits….

Perhaps like me, you’ve been there!  There are 3 essentials of being self-employed and these apply whether you’re at home, in an office, or out and about…

1.  Employ Yourself
As your own boss, you have the opportunity to be a great boss!  A great boss would be really clear about your working hours, location, terms, duties etc.  You can of course build in flexibility but make it really clear.  For example you might say you work 40 hours a week but spread these over 4 days with 3 days off.  You could allocate which days at the start of the week.  This is as much to protect your personal time as it is to ensure you do the work that will lead to success and pay the bills.  When you stick to a good structure, it minimises time spent contemplating what you ‘should’ be doing and feeling guilty about things you haven’t done.
We need to get into new habits and having a regular pattern to our day is helpful.  When we no longer have a journey to work, we might adopt rituals to start and finish work.  We may have a specific work space, dress for work, light a candle or put up a ‘do not disturb’ sign.  At the end of the day we might take some exercise, go for a walk or off-load to a friend.


2.  Invest in yourself
There’s a temptation to convince ourselves the latest smart phone gizmo is critical to our personal and professional success.  The freedom to set up our workplace just as we want can be overwhelming and budget breaking.  I’d suggest focusing on the things that make a difference to our wellbeing.  Insurance for peace of mind, technology which truly saves time and minimises repetitive tasks, a workspace we feel comfortable in and training in skills that are important to us.  We are now responsible for keeping our knowledge-up-to-date and our approach fresh.  So invest in the one business asset that accumulates in value- ourselves.  Paid sick-leave is a luxury of the past so invest too in keeping healthy and minimising stress.


3.  Recruit your team. 
You may be a Solopreneur but that doesn’t mean you need to work alone.  Network to find specialists you might need someday- IT, marketing, book keeping, potential collaborators.  You might want to have an arrangement with friends to encourage each other when your motivation drops and join forums on social media to share ideas and contacts.  Ensure you have real company during the day- not just the reassurance of chocolate! 
When you’re busy working in your business it can be hard to see the wood from the trees and an essential member of your team is your coach or mentor.  Most of us learn quickly on-the-job but we fail to capitalise on this by building in the reflection time to integrate the new learning.  We need to step back and consider our strategy with our trusted ally so we can make sure we are accessing all the resources available and making the most of all opportunities rather than thinking in our habitual ways.  


  I would like to be the trusted coach on your team and I have an offer for you this November.  Experience a FREE* Life Strategy Coaching Session and discover your top 3 priorities for 2015.  There is a questionnaire to prepare and then we meet for an hour to discuss the themes and learning.  The meeting is totally confidential and typical feedback is that sessions are positive, practical and inspiring.   Booking the time now will ensure, even with a busy Christmas period, you are ready to make the most of 2015.

To reserve your appointment, or contact me by email or phone (details at the end)

*This offer is open to anyone who has ‘liked’ the Soul Sanook Facebook page (www.facebook.com/soulsanook), is a member of one of our Meet-up groups or a linked-in contact.  Sessions are free for the month of November only

And I look forward to reading your experiences on self-employment heaven and hell below or on facebook

Deborah Reeds
Life Coach
deborah@soulsanook.com
Tel 07702 737019